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7 Things You Don’t Love About Solo Travel

Meeting people can be very safe when you stay in pubic.

Before I launched this blog, I took a survey to find out how many friends and family travel solo, what they like and dislike about it, what tips they would offer…  You can read their answers on a number of posts, including:

•    Top Ten Reasons You Love to Travel Solo
•    Travel Safety: 50 tips for solo travelers
•    Travel Solo and Love It: 50 tips

While most respondents confirmed that they do travel solo and like it, they were also clear that there are aspects of the experience that they don’t like. So, in recognition of the fact that nothing is perfect, this post is about what’s not so great when you travel solo.  And, of course, my thoughts on each.

1.    Traveling alone doesn’t feel as safe.

We have been raised with the understanding that there is safety in numbers. This is particularly important for children and teenagers who don’t have the life experience to assess situations quickly and make sound decisions. They should go places with people they know. However, by the time we reach twenty or so, with a few precautions, traveling alone can be very safe. As an adult, you can find safety in numbers even when you don’t know anyone. In addition to the 50 safety tips above, you might want to read “Solo Travel Safety: 5 principles”.

2.    The single supplement makes the cost of solo travel prohibitive.

Ah, the dreaded single supplement. True, most packaged holidays charge extra for people who choose to travel solo but there are occasions when you actually benefit by being alone. Check out the solo travel deals page and have a read of Travel Solo and Save and “Solo Travel on a Budget Part I: avoiding the single supplement“.

3.    Dining alone is awkward.

There are so many ways to deal with this issue that sometimes I have to remind myself to take a dinner hour just for me. Have a read of  “Eat Alone and Meet New People” (Keith’s surprise ending is amazing in this story”), “Dining Solo: A Confession and a Discovery“and the straight forward “Five Ways to Enjoy Restaurant Dining – Solo”.

4.    Traveling alone is lonely.

One would expect solo travel to be lonely. And, on occasion, it is. But when you travel solo you learn that being lonely is not a function of being alone. It’s easy to find lots of people to do things with. Read: “How to Travel Alone Without Being Lonely: 10 tips & 5 posts“.

My Chicago Greeter, Jeanette, and me after a full day of cycling

My Chicago Greeter, Jeanette, and me after a full day of cycling

5.    Traveling solo I have to take full responsibility for everything.

Keeping track of your documents, money, itinerary, tickets… yourself can be a challenge but the big thing about solo travel and responsibility is that, when you travel solo, there is no one to be responsible to – other than yourself. Freedom is a pretty big upside. Read: “Solo Travel Planning: the important though tedious details“.

6.    There’s no one to share experiences with when I travel solo.

This, I think, is the most difficult thing about solo travel. I remember coming out of seeing “Kiss of the Spiderwoman” in New York City and being so dazzled by the production that I was desperate to talk about it. I did a 360, looking for someone I could approach, but found no one. So, yes, on occasion this is very difficult. But… there are occasions when you meet people who have knowledge, passion, talent… that enhance an experience. People that you would not have access to if you did not travel solo.

7.    Traveling alone I don’t have anyone to share the memories with.

This may be true but you have more people to tell stories to. Remember to take pictures of yourself on your travels as often friends and family will be more interested in those than landscape after landscape. Read: “The Tricks of a Solo Photographer“.

So, solo travel is not perfect but, just about any objection can be overcome. Would I still travel solo if I wasn’t single? Well that’s the subject of a post coming up next week. Until then, I hope you’ll add your comments on this one.

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  • http://solotravelerblog.com Janice Waugh

    That’s a great idea Denise. Blogging can be a very personal project as well.

    Thanks for sharing.
    janice

  • denise

    When traveling solo I actually find that I feel connected to folks back home by doing a blog and posting every evening with pictures. I have a small following of friends and family (and sometimes co-workers) who i know are reading each post and sometimes commenting so I go through each day eager to share what I’ve experienced. That way I don’t feel like I have no one to share the experience with after all.

  • Scott

    When all is said and done, there is no other way that I’d go (and do go!) than solo.

  • TravelGirl1144

    Great post on solo travel.  I can agree that the points you mentioned could be complete deterrents for most, but for others, the reason they love solo travel.  I feel that solo travel is all about growth and self discovery and that you can get the most out of your travels this way.

    With regards to your comment on single supplement.  I understand, this can be one of the most annoying things of Solo travel.  I did hear that G Adventures does not have any single supplement which is great.

  • http://solotravelerblog.com Janice Waugh

    Hi Mary, Such a wonderful story. You have created quite a life for yourself. Thanks for sharing.
    Janice

  • http://www.bartnikowski.com/ Mary Bartnikowski

    I agree with all my heart! The only time I traveled in a group (10 years ago) was to England and I was irritated by how long my fellow travelers would take to get going on any outing – hair had to be blow-dried, make-up applied, endless talking, finally I found my own place to stay separate from the others and I remember the moment it dawned on me that solo travel was a thriling, soul refreshing experience for me. I was sitting in my tiny room with teddy bear sheets on the bed in Glastonbury, England eating cheddar cheese I had bought in the town of Cheddar feeling so happy that I could sit there peacefully eating my snack on crackers while looking out over the Englsh countryside from that delightful bed and breakfast I had discovered owned by a lovely woman who inspired me with her profound perspective on life.

    I got to know her over the gigatntic homemade breakfast she made me every morning. i was the only guest for a few days and she shared her joyful spirit with me. She actually had tears in her
    eyes whe I left. That would not have happened if I was with a group or
    even one other person. When traveling with others you
    focus your energy on them and not so much new people. I’ll never forget her.

    So in that moment of cheddar filled bliss I vowed to make international travel a big part of my life and now after traveling and teaching photography and yoga in 27 countries on 4 continents in the last 6 years I absolutely love the freedom of being able to say – I think I feel like going to Bolivia today and then up and doing it – no one to negotiate with.

    By the way my latest book is Kitten Heels in Kathmandu, Adventures of a Female Vagabond. Its about my last 6 years of solo travel around the globe – write me anytime i would love to hear from other women out there traveling solo or wanting to do it in the near future. Try it you will love it!
     

    my latest ebook:

    http://www.amazon.com/Kitten-Kathmandu-Adventures-Vagabond-ebook/dp/B005MR4X1I/
    and my web site: http://www.bartnikowski.com

  • http://hotelswala.com/nainital/nainital-hotels.php Hotel Wala

    I will vote for travelling alone instead of a pack of noisy people.It allows you to enjoy the tour with your wish rather than depending upon others.

  • http://solotravelerblog.com Janice Waugh

    Hi Jeanne. Thanks for sharing. I hope you’ll visit the blog again and maybe join the Solo Travel Society on Facebook. http://facebook.com/solotravelsociety/

  • Jeanhager

     hello my name is jeanne. I love to travel also and i am taking my first solo trip in dec. 2011.i have travel before but with friends and family. I found keeping a dayly journal very useful for when i get home because i never remember what i did when. Hope your next trip goes well.

  • http://www.bartnikowski.com Mary Bartnikowski

    I love my professional vagabond life. I have traveled and worked in 27 countries on 4 continents for the past 6 years. Absolutely the best thing I have ever done! Here is my latest blog on the topic Why I Travel Solo
    http://solofemalevagabond.wordpress.com/2011/07/14/why-i-travel-solo/
    Let me know what you think. I am full throttle on traveling full-time.

  • solotraveler

    Right on!

  • http://teayee.blogspot.com Tea Yee

    Like many people, I started traveling alone when there was no facebook, no WIFI, no smartphones…. and back then the only way I could try to share my experience real time (well, sort of…..) with people back home was through text messaging. And it was costly, so it was very limited. Still, I enjoyed each and every solo trip as it gave me a chance to be alone and have time to think, enjoy the experience quietly.

    Now that I do have an iphone, and in more modern cities there is free wifi in many places, I feel very much connected to my friends and family and I can share the latest pictures and experience with them many times a day.

    I find traveling alone a great opportunity to learn to feel comfortable with yourself.

  • solotraveler

    I’d be on the next flight! lol

  • Kevin Hawley

    Of course I’ll keep you posted Janice,
    who do you think I will call first if I blow a Rod in Nicaragua? ha..ha.. :)

  • solotraveler

    That’s very cool Kevin. I hope you keep us posted on your trip.

  • Kevin Hawley

    The one thing that comes to mind is arriving at the Airport for the trip home. Bummed because I don’t want to leave and there truly is nothing exciting going on around you. For this reason, I plan to Drive on my next trip to Latin America due to my proximity to the Border and some great tips from other Solo’s. I’m sure the trip there and back will provide the needed adventure.

  • solotraveler

    Thank you for such a thoughtful comment. Yes, we achieve traveling what can’t be done at home. And while it may be lonely sometimes, it is so worth it.

  • 2000Footprints

    I have lamented about the lonely road of the traveller before. I do try to explain this to non-travellers with the general reaction of rolling of eyeballs and seething “oh poor you” sarcasm. You have to believe me…there are sacrifices made for living a life on the road…try it you’ll see for yourself! But, the biggest one is loneliness. I have tried to explain the lonely life on the road in many ways but I’ve never really been able to describe it with words. It is an experience. A bittersweet experience.

    On the road I meet all kinds of people and develop instant bonds with people from all around the world. For some reason the road strips me of the normal social barriers I normally would carry and I am able to present only myself with none of the daily garbage that I surround myself with. I’m guessing the same is true with other travellers. Travelling is almost a metaphor for life in that you only get a short while, better make the most of it. And we do, oh we so do.

    I spent 7 or 8 hours a day walking around Italy on one excursion… with a messed up Achilles tendon. At “home” with this affliction, I would probably call in sick to work for a week with my foot up on ice not even wanting to walk to my kitchen fridge to feed myself.

    The element of limited time while travelling is what makes us live each and every second to the fullest, in my opinion. So it is of little surprise that when we meet fellow travellers we do not want to miss out on experiencing them. One of my best friends in the whole world is a person I met while travelling… for 1 day. I’d only spent time with her for 1 day and she is now one of the most important people in my life. That awareness that time is of the essence forces us to take down normal barriers created in our respective societies and just “be”. Which if you ask me…just being is the epitome of being truly ALIVE. For this, living in the moment, loneliness is a sacrifice I am willing to make.

  • solotraveler

    Absolutely. I always meet people as I travel. In Chile, the Navimag ferry was really great for this. http://solotravelerblog.com/how-to-travel-solo-patagonia-top-10-tips/

  • http://veloroo.blogspot.com Ken

    I’ve never felt alone, because I always meet people along the way – locals and other travellers. Staying in hostels negates single supplements. As for safety, I ask which areas to avoid as well as heeding my sixth sense which warns me away from dodgy areas when on walkabout.

  • solotraveler

    I like to hike too but I like to have people every 10 minutes or so to feel safe. It kind of detracts from the feeling of being lost in nature but on the upside I often find like-minded people to share the joy with.

  • MaryM

    My #1 concern with traveling solo is also #1 on this list. I get frustrated when I want to hike in the back woods but feel unsafe. I started my travel blog because of #7, so maybe that isn’t such a disadvantage after all. :) I agree…there are many people to share stories with. I often call my best friend from the road to share my experiences….oftentimes at the moment I’m having them.

  • solotraveler

    Hi Natalie. It is exactly because such thoughts occur to people that I wrote this post. Please browse through other parts of Solo Traveler to learn all sorts of ways to deal with them. And read the stories to see just how much fun can be had because one is solo. I hope you have a great trip and let us know about it on the Solo Travel Society page on Facebook.

  • solotraveler

    Absolutely. I think each and every one of these objections is surmountable – my point exactly. :)

  • Connie

    True, though I find that when you travel solo, you soon meet people and then all those problems no longer exist. Personally, I hate eating alone and always try to find a dining partner. If not, I sit at the bar and chat with the staff.

  • http://turkishtravelblog.com Natalie

    I am considering a solo trip soon due to my husbands work commitments. All the above have passed through my mind. I am thinking just do it. If it turns out that it is not for me, then I have not lost anything in life.

  • carrol

    i love travel alone being alone you can easly talk to local also you can move to one place to other place. As a filipina travel solo is not common in our country.

  • http://firsttimetravel.wordpress.com First-time Travel

    Your article is insightful. I have experienced traveling alone. Last year, I took a nine-hour train ride from LA to San Francisco and my first time at that. Indeed, I realized that being alone gives me an additional doze of boldness to reach out and interact with locals. I was able to chat with other travelers while on board the train, something I get limited when I’m with friends. But then again, there are pros and cons in solo traveling.

  • admin

    Thanks. Traveling alone makes it easier to talk to locals too!

  • PinayTraveller

    I’ve encountered some of the issues mentioned here. I just recently came from my first solo European trip and #4 tops my list. It’s hard to battle loneliness when you’re on your own. But I found out that one way to cope with loneliness is to talk to the locals. They will always give you a different perspective and they will be more than willing to take your picture.:)

    By the way, I love your website!

  • http://pinaysolobackpacker.wordpress.com Pinay solo backpacker

    I am a Filipina solo backpacker. I started traveling alone July 2008. Been backpacking the largest island of Philippines & hopes to complete all provinces by next year. I just came back from Thailand. And my over a year experience of solo traveling is nothing compared to what I’ve been thru in a foreign country. But my misadventures won’t stop me from traveling alone. And I am thankful I found your site, it’s a big help. And yes, traveling alone especially if you are a girl is not safe, you spend more because you have no one to share with, not to mention that some hostels/hotels/inns/guesthouse doesn’t have a single room so you get to pay for a room meant for 2 people, and in our country, people are not used to a girl in her 20’s traveling alone,although I do see some girl solo travelers, most of them are foreigners, honestly, sometimes it gets lonely, yes, but the experience, the places & the culture I immerse in, is all worth it, I fund my own travel, and I am not rich at all,but I wanna show to the world & to my fellow Filipinas that one doesn’t have to be rich to travel, and A GIRL CAN TRAVEL ALONE, hopefully I can inspire some to do what they love doing. :) 2 days ago I decided to start documenting my travels ;share my adventures & misadventures,and again thank you to your site,it’s really a big help.:)

  • http://rvingtoadless.blogspot.com/ JJ

    If I were NOT single, I probably wouldn’t travel solo due to expectations of the other person. As long as I am single, I love traveling solo because of the freedom to go when and where I want.

  • admin

    I agree Gwen. Most people prefer their own room which is why I have the Solo Travel Deals page on this site. Listings have no single supplement and no requirement to share a room.

  • http://www.ouicoach.com Gwen McCauley

    The singles supplement is an interesting phenomenon. I’ve discovered that in the retreats I offer, my clients invariably opt for a private room and bath and are quite happy to pay the singles supplement, even when they could save a significant chunk of change by sharing, and even though our accommodations are very spacious garden homes with the bedroom on a separate level from the living quarters. And even when they are traveling with a friend.

    Perhaps it is that once we reach a certain age, we value privacy over economy!

    And I long ago learned the absolute joy of dining alone. All those years as a corporate road warrior paid off in a few respects. One is becoming comfortable walking into the most exclusive dining room, expecting a decent table and then proceeding to dine as lavishly or as frugally as I feel like, all the while being completely comfortable on my own. I wouldn’t want a lifetime of solo dining (nor solo traveling) but there’s no doubt that it is my favourite form of travel.

    Gwen McCauley

  • http://www.hostelio.com Peter

    I travel solo whenever I can – and do share your philosophy. I’m not unsociable at all, and often team up with other travelers along the way for a stretch, but the freedom of not quite knowing where I’m going next or what I’ll be doing or whom I’ll be meeting is for me a burst of energy.

  • http://www.WanderingEducators.com jessiev

    interesting list. as i read in alec lobrano’s great new book, Hungry in Paris, learning to eat alone is one of life’s greatest challenges – and biggest rewards! thanks for the food for thought. :)

  • http://foxnomad.com Anil

    #3 for sure!

  • admin

    Oh, I know. It can sometimes be a challenge but, as I wrote, there’s usually a flip side which is very, very good.

    I’m interested in your research paper. Care to share?

  • http://www.scorpionsyrup.motime.com Lornadahl

    Hi, I did a research paper about Filipina solo travelers before and these are actually the concerns my respondents came up with. Not to mention who would take their photos. :)

    I had an annoying treatment from a waiter before when I dined by myself. He asked me three times (before placing my order, during the meal and when I asked for my bill) if I were alone. Can’t a woman enjoy her own company?

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