Solo travel is an opportunity to do what you want when you want. There’s no need to compromise with someone else. There is no one else and, therefore, it’s all about you.
Some people call that selfish.
We all have people we’re responsible to in our lives whether they be an aging parent, friends who need you, a partner or children. Is taking off for a weekend, a week, or more to travel solo selfish?
No. To escape everyday responsibilities at home and travel without dragging them along, is not selfish. It is choice that can make you a better person – a person more energized and with more to offer those your care about.
There is the reason that the standard safety preparation on any flight suggests that you secure your own oxygen mask before that of a child or someone else you are caring for. We must be cared for ourselves to be capable of caring for others.
This issue was recently discussed on the Solo Travel Society on Facebook. Here’s what they had to say:
- Stephanie -I‘ve never thought that way, but funnily, I am travelling in South Korea at the moment and a lot of people here are telling me exactly that. It’s a very strongly “bonded” culture… most restaurants won’t even accept solo diners
- Ayngelina – I don’t know why selfish has to be such a bad word. I travel solo and I love being able to do exactly what I want and not worry if it conflicts with someone else. I cherish this opportunity to be selfish without hurting others.
- Isabel – It’s okay to be selfish. It’s about self-preservation. But there is of course the caveat that it should not harm others. If solo travelling is selfish, then so be it!
- Nomadic living and travels – Selfish = self care. I don’t think of my solo travels as selfish, but that this is a solo journey for reasons, and those can be individual and different for anyone. I think my family thinks that it is selfish because I am not functioning in the same paradigm as them therefore I am not being responsible in the way that they want me to be, so living my life this way is, to them is selfish.
- Mashitah – Traveling solo means to have total freedom and to avoid being burden to other people..learn to make wise decision and completely rely on yourself.. because for me, at the end of the day, you only have yourself..
- Robin – Even Jesus went off on his own to ‘re-group’ and get away fro the hustle and bustle of everyday
pressures. It is a good thing.
- Aini – I don’t really care if people thinks its SELFISH!I LOVE SOLO TRAVEL!:o)
- Gray – Have to agree with Aini and Ayngelina – not sure why the word “selfish” always has to have a negative connotation. I think solo travel is kind of selfish, but so what? So is forcing your partner or friend to go with you to a place they have no interest in just because you can’t bear to travel alone. So are most choices we make in life. At least when you travel solo you’re not forcing your wants, needs and desires onto another human being.
- Lash – I can’t even imagine why anyone would consider solo travel selfish?! eh? What’s the idea behind that concept?
- Sherrie Ann – Solo isn’t selfish at all. It’s a choice. Traveling solo means freedom!!
- Ruth – I love solo travel. The ‘selfish’ part for me has come in when I’ve tried traveling with another person whose theme was “all about me”.” I shall do this” etc….If you are going to travel with another person it has to be a team otherwise it won’t work.
- Sara – I think solo is totally selfish.. and I’m totally fine with it it’s all about me and what I wanna do!
- Laurie – If solo travel is selfish give me more..I call it freedom. Freedom to go where you want, eat where you want, meet who you want…it’s wonderful
- Leah – Take care of yourself first….I agree…..solo.
- Andrea – Solo travel is choice we all have them, I choose to travel Solo on occasions and with people on other trips, I would say it’s brave rather than selfish. however it is a good way to please oneself without trying to please others so I can see where the ‘selfish’ idea would come from.
- Halla – When you’re solo and your time is totally free for anything, you are able to be completely selfless and generous with everything you have. In fact, being tied to people and obligations gives you a sense you have to “nest”…without that feeling, well…you know how it is! 😉