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Solo Travelers are Sexy

Published October 19, 2009 | By Janice

At a dinner party the other night, the discussion turned to actors; who is sexy and who isn’t. Surprisingly, the majority of the people mentioned were not really eye candy. Some were quite ordinary and even a little on the unattractive side when you had a good look. So what is it that makes people sexy?

220px Steve Buscemi 2009 portrait Solo Travelers are Sexy

The sexy Steve Buscemi.

The fundamental ingredient to sexy is something more important than looks, power or money. It’s confidence. And, I would suggest, a secondary component is being a little unconventional.

Stick with me here… I’ll get to the solo traveler part.

Paul McCartney was extremely hot as a Beatle. But, when he left the Beatles, he became bland. He was so conventional with Wings that he lost his sex appeal. Steve Buscemi, on the other hand, the guy from Fargo, the Sopranos and 30 Rock, is confident, certainly not conventional and considered very sexy. (Not by me – I was pretty surprised by this. But Google him and “sexy” and you’ll see.) And what about Madonna. Take away the makeup and lighting and you have your garden variety girl. She’d be plain if she weren’t so darn confident, unconventional and, well, sexy.

My point is, good looks do not equate to sexy. Being confident and a bit unconventional do.

Solo Travelers are Sexy

So, from these musings, I think about solo travel and followed this train of thought…

 Confidence is sexy.
 Being unconventional is sexy.
 Solo travel takes confidence.
 Solo travel is unconventional
 Solo travelers are, therefore, unconventional and confident

Ergo…

 Solo Travelers are sexy.

Don’t quibble with me about leaps of logic. My conclusion is what is important here and my conclusion is this: the fact that one is a bit unconventional and travels solo, and, the fact that one is confident enough to travel solo, makes the solo traveler sexy.

I’m pleased to let every solo traveler know that you are sexy. And, that the more you travel solo, the sexier you’ll get because you’ll be going more interesting places, doing more unconventional stuff and growing that sexy confidence you have.

Cheers to that!

 

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  • solotraveler

    Alright!!!

  • solotraveler

    As always, I love your contribution. Thanks Scott.

  • http://www.jipp-world.blogspot.com jipp

    LOL! As a solo traveler myself, I’m so flattered by this. Oh wait, is it why I’ve been getting approached by more and more girls since I started traveling solo? :-P

  • http://www.farawayeyes.org Scott Hartman

    “Sex-y” . . . an unfortunate word, in a way . . . (as 3/4′s of it is ‘sex’ :) . . . though I can’t – only half way through my first cup of morning coffee – right now come up with a better one . . . “Confidence” I think does come with the territory, but equally important for me is vulnerability, the risk of putting yourself out there . . . and maybe confidence is a bi-product of vulnerability . . . risk taking is attractive, whether it be tying a glorified rubber band around both ankles and jumping off a bridge, or stepping on a plane, alone, and heading ten time zones in any direction . . . admiration is a part of it – especially for those, like me, who go for months and months – in knowing that that person has given up/deferred all those things that society is trying to sell us as (in my case) The American Dream . . . I admire people who have looked that particular country-specific Dream in the eyes and said, “No, thank you anyway” and then gone on to Dream Dreams of their own . . .

  • http://cumidanciki.com/ Ciki

    because solo is sexayyy! great post.. completely picked me up yo! :D

  • solotraveler

    I love your attitude. I love the concept of the mystery woman. You go girl!!!

  • http://twitter.com/nydarling Darlene

    Thanks Janice….you affirm how I view myself traveling and/or even eating out alone. I get dressed up for evening dinner, put on perfume, carry beautiful leather journal & good book. Instead of feeling uncomfortable that I’m the only person dining alone… I imagine that I’m confident, perhaps mysterious, even sexy and that people who notice me don’t feel sorry for me…they speculate on who the writer is, what is she working on, is she a restaurant critic? 8-) I don’t like bars but I will sit at a bar at a fine restaurant and most of the time others strike up conversations with me about what I’m reading, the wine I’m ordering. It took awhile to master this but most of the time it works and I get to meet really nice people, flirt a little and have a nice meal out!

  • http://www.vagabondroots.com/ Catia

    I love this, it put a big smile on my (apparently sexy) face =)

    I do agree that confidence as well as intelligence / street smarts make a person sexy and those are both things that solo travellers either have when they start out, or pick up along the way from the experiences.

    Great post!

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  • admin

    Too funny! Thanks for sharing.

  • Sexier on the road

    I love the logic, and to provide further proof…….

    I was travelling on business on Sunday night and felt like a glass of wine….to avoid horrendous room service charges, I went to the bar with my book.

    After a quiet glass of wine and a chapter of my book, I suddenly found I had the attention of a group of salesmen also in town on business.

    Lets just say, it has been many years since I have had that much male attention (or so many offers for free drinks!) – despite my wedding ring and frequent references to my husband!!

  • http://www.tracybarnettonline.com Tracy Barnett

    I like it! Much more fun (and enlightening) than plastic surgery, a new wardrobe or all the other things people do to achieve sexiness.

    Thank you for the affirmation!

  • admin

    I’m loving everybody’s replies. Yeah baby!

  • Dave

    As I’ve traveled solo abroad for a combined 2 years, that must put me on the same level as, say, Austin Powers.

    Yeah baby!

  • http://nodebtworldtravel.com brian from nodebtworldtravel.com

    Why thank you!

    I will say that I have respect for female solo travelers because there are so few of them compared to males. Any woman who can step out on her own is definitely interesting and has something to say and share.

  • http://twenty-somethingtravel.com/ Stephanie

    Steve Buscemi creeps me out!

    But I agree, solo traveler’s have a certain mystique, whether out on the road or at home. Solo traveling takes confidence and nothing is sexier than that!

  • http://www.adventurerob.com AdventureRob

    That’s the sort of strange logic I use, and this this makes complete sense to me. Settling down does take away the sex appeal.

  • http://boostbusiness.ca Susan

    Steve Buscemi eh? Interesting, not top of my list (don’t remember that name coming up) but I would definitely agree that one of the intangible elements that increases sex appeal is confidence and there is nothing like world travel that builds one’s confidence and “worldly” character.

    However, there is a fine line between confidence and arrogance or hubris which tends to tip the scale in the opposite direction.

    Great post – keep them coming!

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