The Right to Travel Solo

Diego Rivera and Frida Kahlo found a way to be together, yet apart. According to the film Frida, they addressed their needs for solo time as well as couple time by creating a home(s) in these fabulous houses joined by a bridge.

Two houses would likely be a bit of a stretch financially for most of us. Fortunately, there are less expensive ways to get a bit of space for your personal well being and that of your relationship. You can take a break and travel solo.

The right to be solo is for everyone.
Single people have no trouble enjoying their right to be solo.¬† They simply ask themselves: is this trip one for friends or is it my personal adventure? It’s up to them.

People who are coupled can sometimes struggle with their right to be solo. Yet very often it is these people who need a bit of time alone more than any. With responsibilities for children and a partner and possibly parents, they may never find time for themselves. They need a bit of solo time  for renewal.

I’ve also known more than one couple like Diego and Frida. Unwilling to live without their partner, yet frustrated when they have too much time together. These people have planned time apart. Solo travel is their way of meeting their personal needs.

Reclaiming the right.
There’s nothing odd about needing some time alone. Children do it all the time. They seem to know instinctively when they need to shut down, read a book, play a solitary game or just sit in a tree and stare into space. Adults need that time too. We just have to learn how to listen to our needs. Listen and take a bit of time solo.

Please tell me…
How do you tell your partner you want to travel solo.

  • Tinachopee

    My husband and I have been together over 40 years and in the last 30 we have always had solo trips apart. It keeps things fresh and we both enjoy the alone time – the traveler and the person at home.. it works for us!

  • Connie

    Great post! I’m actually struggling a bit on this topic with my partner. I think we both just need to remember that wanting time apart is healthy, not a sign that the other is sick of you. =)

  • Teri

    As I plan my fourth trip this year without my husband, I couldn’t agree more (my husband and I both work freelance, so we spend a lot of time together). I always ask for his thoughts about taking off without him and he’s never said that he wants me to stay home. I guess I’m lucky in that he understands my need for time on my own. He is a total homebody but will usually take at least one trip a year with me.

  • Len

    Excellent post….not only is traveling solo a right, I think it’s something everyone needs to do at least once in their lives! For me, the world opens up in a way not possible when you have companions with you. The freedom to wake, sleep, go, and do, completely on your own schedule is nothing short of priceless!

  • Jodi Henderson

    What a fantastic post. I’m going to bookmark it in case I need to reference it in the future (like if I ever get married and feel the need to take some time away). :-)

  • solotraveler

    I bet he was a rock star. That’s fantastic!

    I wonder how people who have had to make the request popped the question.

  • Myra

    It was my husband who suggested I needed a solo trip: a week without kids or house responsibilities. He was right — and I loved it. (And he was rock star in the eyes of all my friends!)

  • ayngelina

    For some reason growing up in my family we all recognized that we needed to be alone at times.

    It really helped when my mother and sister came to visit me in Ecuador and one morning I was cranky with them and they just let me be, knowing not to take it personally but none of us had time alone.

    Family is great that way.