Diego Rivera and Frida Kahlo found a way to be together, yet apart. According to the film Frida, they addressed their needs for solo time as well as couple time by creating a home(s) in these fabulous houses joined by a bridge.
Two houses would likely be a bit of a stretch financially for most of us. Fortunately, there are less expensive ways to get a bit of space for your personal well being and that of your relationship. You can take a break and travel solo.
The right to be solo is for everyone.
Single people have no trouble enjoying their right to be solo. They simply ask themselves: is this trip one for friends or is it my personal adventure? It’s up to them.
People who are coupled can sometimes struggle with their right to be solo. Yet very often it is these people who need a bit of time alone more than any. With responsibilities for children and a partner and possibly parents, they may never find time for themselves. They need a bit of solo time for renewal.
I’ve also known more than one couple like Diego and Frida. Unwilling to live without their partner, yet frustrated when they have too much time together. These people have planned time apart. Solo travel is their way of meeting their personal needs.
Reclaiming the right.
There’s nothing odd about needing some time alone. Children do it all the time. They seem to know instinctively when they need to shut down, read a book, play a solitary game or just sit in a tree and stare into space. Adults need that time too. We just have to learn how to listen to our needs. Listen and take a bit of time solo.
Please tell me…
How do you tell your partner you want to travel solo.