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Travel Solo in Silence… at least some of the time.

Imagine choosing not to speak for a day and the experience lasting 17 years.

John Francis did this. He decided to try a day and found the experience so valuable that he carried on for a week, and then a year, thinking that he would talk on the anniversary. That didn’t happen. He continued his silence for 17 years while earning a BA, MA and Ph.d — even while teaching college students he didn’t speak. Why did he do this? Because one learns more by listening and observing than by speaking.

Watching this video (which I hope you will do as it has more to offer than just thoughts on silence) got me thinking about solo travel because traveling solo imposes silence… at least some of the time.


If you’re not talking you can listen.

John Francis says that on the first day that he stopped talking, he began listening. Watch this TED Talk and hear what he has to say; his participation in a conversation actually limited communication. It limited learning.

I think that solo travel, more than any other form of travel, provides a similar opportunity to listen and learn.

When we travel solo, we naturally spend more time with our thoughts, listening to ourselves, because we don’t have someone else with whom to speak. When we are alone, we spend more time observing, taking in the local culture, customs, the environment, fashion, people working, playing… living. This experience of listening and observing is amplified if one doesn’t speak the local language. When speaking is not really possible, we spend even more time listening, observing and learning.

Traveling alone and not speaking the local language may present its challenges from a practical point of view but a naturally imposed silence that causes one to pause, listen, observe and learn has overriding benefits.

And finally, a quote by Mark Twain which I have referred to before on this blog: “Travel is fatal to prejudice, bigotry and narrow-mindedness.” I would like to suggest that taking the time to travel solo and travel in silence… at least some of the time, will do even more to help us learn about and appreciate each other.

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  • http://twitter.com/THEAGENTAPSLEY THE AGENT APSLEY

    I am sorry to be a dissenting voice, but, even if this period of ‘not speaking’ has been verified (as if one could – is it an authenticated world record?), John Francis was patently still communicating with other people.

    He may even have been thrown out of many a cab for handing the driver a note saying ‘Take me to the bus station’, and trying to conduct a conversation with a chatty one by writing down his replies – the fact is that, unless he were a hermit (which he was not), he still needed to tell people things, and, by withholding talking to them, he was just being pretty unhelpful.

    In fact, making them observe and accommodate the difficulties imposed by his self-imposed silence (e.g. the university, both learning and teaching) is no role-model for anyone, but just a study in cussedness. I have travelled alone many a time, but I cannot see anything that John Francis has to say informs such an experience !

  • Peggy McPartland

    Janice, fabulous post and video. Traveling in silence is one of the many things I love about traveling solo. It really struck me how John began to question his decisions and way of life and his statement that sometimes we need to leave the security of who we’ve become and go to the place of who we’re becoming. Wise man, indeed!

  • http://www.travelyourself.ca Cailin

    very cool :)

  • http://www.cumidanciki.com Ciki / Agentcikay

    how true, the wise man listens more and talks less eh.. thanks for the reminder Janice;)

  • admin

    And a great big silent hug back to you.

    Merry Christmas!

  • http://exxxplorer.wordpress.com/ waitinginthedark

    I can only say THANK YOU for sharing such a wonderful piece! I didn’t know about John Francis and reading your post and watching the video is something which gave me a great emotion.

    I have like a sort of ‘cult’ of silence and listening, and I strongly believe that you know that a relationship (any kind of it) is really strong when you can share ‘silence’.

    Thanks again Janice. Making me discovering John Francis experience is the most beautiful Christmas present I could imagine.

    A great, silent hug!
    Simon

  • http://www.wanderingeducators.com/marketplace/apparel/dansko-shoes-review.html jessiev

    excellent, excellent video. thank you for sharing this!

  • http://solofriendly.com Gray

    Good story, and so true. You’ve heard the expression, haven’t you, that God gave us 2 ears and 1 mouth so we would listen twice as much as we talk? Too bad so many people don’t do that.

  • http://www.girlsgetaway.com Dian

    Lovely article Janice, I recently went on a solo trip to Asheville, NC and loved it. It was wonderful to be able to wander around the city – going at my own pace.

  • http://quirkytraveller.wordpress.com/ Zoe Dawes

    Loved the piece Janice – thank you for sharing this. Zoe

About Janice Waugh and Tracey Nesbitt

I'm an author, blogger, speaker and traveler. I became a widow and empty-nester at about the same time. And then, I became Solo Traveler... Here's the full story. >>

Tracey Nesbitt I’m a writer, editor, food and wine fanatic, and traveler. On my very first trip abroad I learned that solo travel was for me. Here's the full story. >>

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