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Welcome Home Mom

My mom, always happy and engaged in life.

It’s been a long, hard slog.

On June 22nd, my mother went into hospital for open heart surgery. A day or two after the apparently successful surgery she had a major stroke.

Tomorrow she comes home after recovering the use of her right side, learning to walk again and regaining much of her strength. It looks like – we all hope – she is on the road to a full recovery.

Why do I write this on my blog ? Well, I simply have not been able to write about solo travel  today. But there’s more.

With only a few exceptions, I have visited my mom in hospital every day for the past month. And throughout that time, I continued to post on schedule. But today I’m tired. It’s caught up with me. And I’ve been thinking about the fragility of life and why it seemed so important that I not miss one post. Why did I put that strain on myself?

Looking at what I wrote yesterday I realized, I was writing to myself. “The World Won’t Miss You for a While” tells us to put life in perspective. It reminds us that, in many ways, we are not that important. This is a similar spin but different application than I put to the poem yesterday.

While I feel that Solo Traveler makes a contribution, really, mom is far more important. The people in our lives are more important. Loving and supporting them through difficult times. Celebrating and rejoicing with them through accomplishments. These things are what really count.

Supporting mom through this struggle will continue for a while.

But today and tomorrow I’m celebrating her accomplishment.

Welcome home mom!

 

 

 

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  • http://solotravelerblog.com Janice Waugh

    Thanks Laura, That’s a really good attitude. It may, indeed, be what I was doing instinctively. Keeping life normal. I hadn’t thought of that. Navigating grief is not easy. Take good care,
    Janice

  • http://twitter.com/edgyjunecleaver Laura Ann Klein

    Janice, I hope your mom continues to progress with her rehab. I completely understand the drive to continue with life as usual and in your life as well as my own: life as usual is a daily blog post. The posting just like you always did is an attempt to continue with life as before and serves as a port when things are completely topsy-turvy or your life has utterly changed forever. I too have been there and done that this past year when my father succumbed to a sudden illness and my self-recrimination for not “keeping up” seems ridiculous in hindsight but it also helped me navigate my grief. Peace to you and yours. 

  • Restless in France

    You have one mum and your love for her is fragile because LIFE IS
    FRAGILE …. because we are here one day and gone the next!!! …a small
    dot in the grand scheme … and we never know what time we have on
    earth so we should always try and live each day as our last…and be
    kind to others and to ourselves…some of us don’t always do that all of
    the time.

    Your story is a reminder of that. Thank you for the reminder!

    I am in a living bereavement (can’t tell here) and it is my journey until I am free to backpack when I make it happen!

    You are travelling with your Mum on her journey and it is your journey
    too. You know about bereavement and each time it will be different. You
    have a right to be tired because travelling requires energy and is never
    easy when batteries need to be recharged! 

    I am so glad you shared this with me … and others… Thank you for
    thinking about us. It is good to continue your own life …your Mum
    would wish that …….

    Travelling solo? it’s what some of us do every day yet we do not need to
    go very far, sometimes not even out of the house!!!!!  Stay with your
    mum… make that journey for her…. May she makes good steps and keep
    with you!

  • Elizabeth

    You’re so right, Janice! BIG love to you, your Mom and the rest of your family!

  • Praying4you

    thanks so much for sharing…i just said a prayer for your momma and for you! glad you are taking care of what matters most cause truly the peripheral can wait. :) thanks for the reminder!

  • Susan

    It is so important to give your mom all the time and care you can but to also give yourself time and space – care for the caregiver!  My thoughts are with you and your mom, sending positive thoughts and energy.

  • Beth

    Best wishes to you and your Mum. You are lucky to have each other.

  • http://www.WanderingEducators.com/ JessieV

    we’ve been there – and YES, everything else can take a back burner to what you’re doing now – and caring for your SELF, too. glad your mom is home!! will send good thoughts!

  • frogprof

    Me too — I took care of my little momma through her fight with cancer. I wouldn’t have missed that time with her for the world, but it is exhausting and lonely, too. Take care of yourself — and give your mom a welcome-home hug from me!

  • http://www.boomeresque.com/ Just One Boomer (Suzanne)

    You’re having an experience shared by many Baby Boomers—presiding over the inexorable decline of a loved one.  It’s enervating, but it’s our gift to them.  Take care of yourself too. Easier said than done.  Been there.  Done that.

  • http://www.sophiesworld.net/ Sophie

    I understand what you mean, Janice. These things put things into perspective. Best of luck with your mum’s recovery.

About Janice Waugh and Tracey Nesbitt

I'm an author, blogger, speaker and traveler. I became a widow and empty-nester at about the same time. And then, I became Solo Traveler... Here's the full story. >>

Tracey Nesbitt I’m a writer, editor, food and wine fanatic, and traveler. On my very first trip abroad I learned that solo travel was for me. Here's the full story. >>

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